Be a real friend
Friendship has been a source of great pain for me. You desired it so much that you often lost yourself in the search for a true friend. Many times you became desperate when a Friendship you hoped for didn’t materialize, or when a friendship begun with great expectations did not last.
Many of your friendships grew from your need for affection, affirmation and emotional support. But now you must seek friends to whom you can relate from your center, from the place where you know that you are deeply loved. Friendship becomes more and more possible when you accept yourself as deeply loved. Then you can be with others in a non-possessive way. Real Friends find their inner correspondence where both know the love of God. There spirit speaks to spirit and heart to heart.
True friendships are lasting because true love is eternal. A friendship in which heart speaks to heart is a gift from God, and no gift that comes from God is temporary or occasional. All that comes from God participates in God’s eternal life. Love between people, when given by God, is stronger than death. In this sense, true friendships continue beyond the boundary death. When you have loved deeply, that love can grow even stronger after the death of the person you love. That is the core message of Jesus.
When Jesus died, the disciples’ friendship with him did not diminish. On the contrary, it grew. This is what the sending of the Spirit was all about. The spirit of Jesus made Jesus’ friendship with his disciples everlasting, stronger and more intimate than before his death. That is what Paul experienced when he said, “ It is no longer I, but Christ living in me” (Galatians 2:20)
You have to trust that every true friendship has no end, that a communion of saints exists among all those, living and dead, who have truly loved God and one another. You know from experience how real this is. Those you have loved deeply and who have died live on in you, not just as memories but as real presences.
1. REAL FRIENDSHIP INVOLVES “COMMITMENT” *Proverbs 18:24(24) A man of many companions may come to ruin, but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother.
“Associate w/ men of good quality if you esteem your reputation, for it is better to be alone than in bad company”by: George Washington
2. REAL FRIENDSHIP INVOLVES “FAITHFULNESS”* Proverbs 17:9(19) He who loves a quarrel loves sin; he who builds a high gate invites destruction.
3. REAL FRIENDSHIP INVOLVES “HONESTY”*Proverbs 27:5-6(5) Better is open rebuke than hidden love. (6) Wounds from a friend can be trusted, but an enemy multiplies kisses. *Proverbs 11:3(3) The integrity of the upright guides them, but the unfaithful are destroyed by their duplicity.
“Admonish your friends privately, but praise them openly.”
4.REAL FRIENDSHIP INVOLVES “SACRIFICE”*John 15:3(3)You are already clean because of the word I have spoken to you.
“Real friendship involves bearing one another’s burden…look at Jesus what HE did for us on the CROSS…this was the SUPREME SACRIFICE.”
5. REAL FRIENDSHIP INVOLVES “JESUS”This is the most important thing… =)
Dare to love and to be a real friend. The love you give and receive is a reality that will lead you closer and closer to God as well as to those whom God has given you to love.